“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
~ Roy T. Bennett
You don’t need to listen to those voices. You know the ones. You’re not smart enough, it’s too hard, no one will take you seriously. Yes, fear makes them louder, but only because you’re moving toward new and great things. Be led by the dreams in your heart! Hey, Michelle Cederberg here with a little bit of food-for-thought around negative self-talk, coming at you in 2 minutes or less.
This morning I was perusing the internet as I often do over breakfast, and I came across a quote that got me thinking about self-talk. The quote said, “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind, be led by the dreams in your heart.” It’s a quote by Roy T. Bennett who is the author of a book called Light in the Heart. As I said, it got me thinking about the ways that we hold ourselves back because we let those fears in our head get in the way of success.
You can call it self-talk, you can call it inner critic, you can call is saboteur but a lot of times the things that we tell ourselves about the things that we aren’t capable of are dead wrong. I’m gonna give you four R’s for managing that self-talk in small steps and I’m hoping that you can practice them every time that little critic starts to pipe up in your brain. The first R is to recognize when your thoughts become unproductive … because that happens, and we know when we’re doing it. Listen to how you’re talking to yourself, listen to where you’re holding yourself back.
When that happens, second R is remind yourself of all of your past wins, all of your current successes and the enduring capacity that you absolutely have for crushing goals and being successful in so many other aspects of your life. If you can be successful in one area of your life you can absolutely transfer that into other areas. Remind yourself of current wins, past successes, and your enduring capacity. Then the third R is to re-frame. When that negative voice comes up, find a way to re-frame it into something more positive.
If you’re fearful about something that you’re taking on, choose to look at it as a challenge. If you are talking yourself out of things because you don’t think you can, try to find ways to tell yourself it’s possible. Three letters that I use is are H, M, I: How Might I? Instead of saying I can’t do it, I ask myself, “How might I make this happen?” Re-frame. This final R is repeat, repeat, repeat. When that voice goes off in your head in a negative way, recognize, remind, re-frame, and repeat. You’ll find yourself moving towards a more positive mindset around what you are truly capable. I know it is big things.
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